How should I deal with my anger?

Adrian Rogers

When you are quick to get angry, you can lose so much – your job, friends, children, wife, health, testimony – there is nothing more debilitating to your Christian testimony than for you to fly off the handle.

Confess Our Anger
If we repress our anger rather than confess it, our anger can do all kinds of damage. You may say that you're not angry but your stomach will keep the score. So, the first thing you must do to control your anger is to confess it to the Lord. Tell Him, "There's something moving in me I don't like. And I need You to take control of me and prevent me from acting uncontrollably or unrighteously."

Someone has well said that if you repress anger it is like lighting a wastebasket, putting it in a closet, and closing the door. It may burn itself out or it may burn the house down. If you want to get control, the very first thing you need to do is open the closet door and say. "There it is, Lord. It's in there. Put out the fire."

Consider Our Anger
When you take a step back from your anger and begin to seek understanding from the Lord, He will show you the answer. It is so important to analyze the source of your anger, so you don't go off half-cocked. Psalm 4:4 says, "Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still."

God promises He will show us the way if we will seek Him. "I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with Mine eye" (Psalm 32:8). And don't look around at the world to see how they are handling it, look to God. Romans 12:2 says, "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."

Control Your Anger
Now, you're ready to work on controlling your anger. You say, "I can't control it." Oh, yes you can. One day you may be having one of those discussions that can be heard about two blocks away and suddenly the phone rings. One of you stomps over to the phone, jerks it off its base, and says, "Hellooooo." Now, don't tell me you can't turn it on and off. You can! Proverbs 29:11 says, "A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards." Fools spout off anything and everything, but a wise man can choose to control his tongue.

Answer taken from God’s Answer to Anger by Adrian Rogers and used by permission of Love Worth Finding.  Click here  to read the article in its entirety. 

Originally published October 01, 2007.

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