Thoughts for Today
Conflicts do occur in marriage and can cause disastrous results if not managed properly. Attitude can make all the difference.
One option in dealing with conflict is an "I'll get him (her)" attitude. "I win and you lose because I am right and you are wrong." This is a power play and shows little or no love.
Another option says, "I'll get out. I'm uncomfortable, so I'll withdraw from the conflict." And you storm from the room with nothing solved.
"I'll give in. I'll be nice and submit to your demands so you'll love me." You become a doormat who is smiling, but frustrated.
"I'll meet you halfway. I have only half of the truth and I need your half." This is the attitude of creative compromise, but these two half-truths may not equal the real truth.
The most fruitful attitude is "I care enough to confront. I want to stay in a respectful and honest relationship with you. I want you to know where I stand and what I am feeling, needing, valuing and wanting." This attitude invites your spouse to change but does not demand it.
The Bible calls it speaking the truth in love.
Father, help me when facing conflict. Help me to have the right attitude to always reflect the love of Christ. Help me to speak the truth in love. In Jesus' name . . .
These thoughts were drawn from …Committed Couples: God's Plan for Marriage & the Family by Dr. Jimmy Ray Lee. Whether in a private or group setting, couples will be encouraged spiritually and romantically as they research biblical principles that affirm their vows. This book can help every married couple grow spiritually and emotionally in their relationship. It is also a great help for engaged-to-be-married couples.
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