The Counselor Who Does Know
Melissa Fletcher Stoeltje in her New York Times essay (July 28, 2015) agreed with the writer of Ecclesiastes about how life is ”futile,” “absurd,” only she applied it to Couples’ Therapy and then used the insight to get some good laughs. For example she describes their first marriage counseling session where the therapist with an icy stare asked, “Do you love each other?” She responds with the thought, “Good question, but wasn’t that what we’re there to find out?” Then she goes on to highlight what she labels “boilerplate couples therapy advice.” Stuff like, “Don’t’ take each other for granted” and “Go out on date nights.”
We might mock our counselors, but we still keep finding a seat on their couches because we desperately want to talk to someone who actually knows what’s going on inside our heads and hearts. According to Psalm 139, a good place to begin is having daily sessions with the One who actually does do an accurate investigation of our personality and comes up with the truth about us.
“O LORD, You have searched me and You know. You know when I sit and when I get up. You discern my thoughts from a distance, when my thoughts are only beginning to come together.” Psalm 139:1-2
I remember at Dallas Seminary when I put down in my theology class notes, “Central passage proving the omniscience of God.” I was thinking about passing Dr. Ryrie’s exam, but for David this was not abstract metaphysics. He personally engaged the LORD and he expresses that his God knows everything about him, inside and out—every detail of not only his thoughts but also his actions. God even knows what he is going to say before he says it (v. 4) and has His guiding hand constantly upon him (v. 5). The extent of God’s personal individualized knowledge blows David away.
This is why the first counselor I go to about my relationship with Mary and for every other issue that comes up is the LORD. Don’t conclude that I’m saying you should never go to a marriage counselor. (We have two LPCs in our immediate family.) Just make sure you’re connecting with the only Counselor who actually does know what’s going inside each of us.
LORD, help me remember in our one on one times that You already know what I’m going to say and that You still fully enter into our conversation. You cherish our time together and desire for me to do the same. LORD, I realize how futile it is to blow boilerplate prayer sentences at You. I’ll try to get rid of the ‘preacher talk’ and simply express the truth, the best I can, about what I’m thinking, feeling, and doing.
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