From ‘bet’ to ‘no cap’ to ‘um,’ the words we sprinkle into our daily speech often say more than we think. As a former high school English teacher, I can attest that students use slang more than they'd like to admit. They even often tried to write it into their papers! While I'm all for authenticity, slang just might reveal more than we realize.
In recent studies, linguists have pointed out that slang words and filler words like "um" aren’t inherently bad—they serve purposes like signaling pauses, showing identity, or adding color to conversation. Their value depends on context. A little um helps listeners track a thought, but too many can undermine credibility. Likewise, slang builds community among peers but can feel unprofessional in formal settings. Both highlight how language constantly shifts with culture.
While younger generations are embracing slang as identity markers, workplaces debate professionalism in speech. Not only did I see this as a teacher, but I'm now seeing it as an author, speaker, and mental health advocate. Do these words make us real, or cause us to seem unprofessional? Are they necessary, or filler words when the Bible tells us to be careful with the words we choose to use? One of the biggest concerns with using slang isn't about policing language but recognizing its power.
Why Slang and Filler Words Matter
For many of us, slang is used in our daily lives, even if we ourselves don't use it. Go to work, turn on the television, watch a show on Netflix, or have a conversation with Gen Z, and you'll hear it. Slang helps people bond over events and circumstances. However, excessive fillers can hurt our authority, especially in realms of credibility, professionalism, public speaking, or assignments. I wouldn't advocate for students using slang in their papers, but I wouldn't suggest using it at a job interview.
Nevertheless, language changes with culture; today’s slang is tomorrow’s dictionary entry. The Oxford English Dictionary adds slang annually, and this continues year after year. Words like "rizz" (2023), "lol", or even "yeet" are now at the top of the list. While these words are funny, they bring up a more serious concern.
If our everyday words carry weight, how do we practice the biblical call to let our speech “always be with grace” (Colossians 4:6)—using even slang and fillers in ways that build up rather than distract or tear down?
Biblical Foundations for Speech
Not surprisingly, the Bible has a lot to say about the words we use. While "slang" might not be mentioned word for word, Jesus teaches that we will give an account for careless words (Matthew 12:36); therefore, those who teach and speak will be judged more harshly (James 3:1).
As a writer, I take the words I say very seriously. Not just because they impact others, but because they matter to God. Colossians 4:6 tells us that our speech should be seasoned with grace. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that life and death are in the power of the tongue, and we must learn to control what comes out of us. Ephesians 4:29 resounds that the words we use should build up and not tear down.
Even Jesus Himself, though He used many figures of speech, was known for clear, concise, compelling, and well-versed language. He spoke with kindness and intent. He valued His words because He knew the weight of impact they would have on others.
How Slang and Fillers Fit the Picture
Today, slang reveals itself as words with both positive and negative usages. On the positive front, slang can be seen as a tool for connection and encouragement. It can be funny when you share a laugh with a friend, or bond over the words of a popular song or TV show. Slang has the power to affirm someone with their cultural language. Even filler words like um or like can show thoughtfulness or reliability as one is verbally processing their thoughts instead of speaking off the cuff.
On the flipside, however, using slang also comes with some rather necessary cautions. Not only can their overuse weaken the impact of what we say, but some slang may carry deeper meanings that don't reflect God's call to holiness. People are watching what we say and do, and if we aren't careful, they might get the wrong idea about our spiritual values. Again, just because words are common doesn’t mean they’re harmless. Discernment matters for everyone—even in the silly words we spew off without thinking.
5 Practical Ways to Speak with Grace
If the words we say do carry such weight, how can we respond to slang appropriately? Here are 5 practical ways to speak with grace:
1. Pause Before You Speak
Remember to pause. I know you're tempted to say what pops into your mind first. It's okay to even say, "Let me think on that for a moment." By replacing unnecessary fillers with intentional silence, you're telling the listener that you care about giving the best and most helpful advice.
2. Check the Meaning
While slang can quickly come and go, it's important to be mindful of slang origins. If you don't know what the word means, consider researching it or asking someone in advance. It's best practice to avoid words that dishonor others.
3. Adapt for Context
As a teacher, I never used slang with my students. As a speaker and author, I use it sparingly. Why? What builds community with peers may confuse or distract in worship or work. It's important to me that I build myself up as an authentic professional, not one who says careless or trendy words to fit in with the crowd.
4. Speak Identity in Christ
Instead of using slang, use intentional words affirming others’ worth and dignity. We can root our linguistics in Scripture and what God says about those around us.
5. Practice Encouragement
As always, the words we say should uplift and encourage those around us. If you do choose to use slang or casual speech, let it be laced with kindness, not sarcasm or harm. Remember: We will be held accountable for every word we say. No one is perfect; you will make mistakes and say careless things from time to time, but always work towards improving your speech.
Let me be clear—all words—slang and fillers included—are tools. We can build up or tear down. The power of speech lies in the tongue. But the question at heart isn't whether we use them, but how we use them. This week, I would challenge you to ask this question: “Does this phrase build others up or distract from what God wants me to communicate?”
As you seek to wrestle with and answer that question honestly, ask the Lord to help you process. Remember: The words you say matter, but no one is perfect. Salng may reveal more than we realize, but through Christ, we can have power over our words.
A Prayer for the Right Words
Dear Jesus,
We know that every word we use and say matters, but sometimes, it's tempting to just go with the flow to fit in or be funny. When we're evaluating the words we use, please help us to be cautious and articulate. In every word we speak, whether carefully or casually spoken, let it bring life and encouragement. Let others see you and your love through us, and allow our words to bring life. Please guard my tongue from careless speech and teach me to season my conversations with grace, reflecting you in all we say and do. We praise, thank, and love you, Lord.
Amen.
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