Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality . . . because these are improper for God's holy people. EPHESIANS 5:3, NIV
When Stacey avoids fatty foods, she's being health conscious. When she stays away from alcohol, she's being responsible and resisting her impulses. For all these she is endorsed for keeping long-term goals in mind instead of giving in to peer pressure and immediate gratification.
But if she makes a conscious decision to delay sexual activity, she's described as being "not sexually active"—and given no praise or endorsement.
These startlingly honest words are from the author of Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student, a book ascribed to an anonymous campus physician proclaiming truth in all its common-sense starkness. The author is simply asking why a medical world so concerned about bicycle safety and tanning-bed exposure and regular exercise has so little interest in discouraging a behavior whose participants are three times more likely to be depressed or attempt suicide than those who abstain. Not until sexual activity has resulted in a sexually transmitted disease or an unwanted pregnancy, the author writes, does the university medical establishment get involved—usually by scheduling an abortion or beginning an antibiotic regimen.
It's outrageous. It's absurd. But honest accounts like this are helpful in reminding us that our world is indeed sexually deceived. Satan has strung together one victory after another in creating a culture with the lowest standards of purity. By devaluing marriage and family, he is deadening the hearts of a generation, turning their attentions entirely on themselves . . . and away from God and His design.
It's past time for parents to reject passivity in this area and get actively involved in helping their preteens and teenagers stay as far away from danger as possible. The stakes are too high to sit quietly on the sidelines and say nothing. With prayer and God's guidance and grace, this is a winnable war.
Sex education is more about character than human reproduction. How do you intend to teach your children about self-control and godly obedience?
While sinking God's Word deep into the hearts of your children, pray hard for their protection.