Who Should Decide?
"Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts." (2 Timothy 2:22-23 NLT)
Thoughts for Today
How much latitude should you give your teen? Of course, the answer will vary depending on his or her level of maturity and your particular circumstances, but you should usually allow him to make decisions that do not affect his health or well-being. You can give him greater and greater freedom as he shows increasing responsibility in his choices.
Remember, you are still the parent. You are your teen's authority figure, and you have every right - and responsibility - to prohibit certain things if the need arises. Some of the things you would likely want to prohibit are tobacco, alcohol, drugs, pornography, and premarital sex.
Consider this . . .
It is reasonable to expect your teenager to help with household responsibilities and to keep his room reasonably clean. Your family prayer time and church attendance are especially important during these years. Encourage him to be a part of your church youth group.
Communication is a key in parenting teenagers. Have meaningful conversations with him. Keep the lines of communication open no matter what difficulties you may be experiencing in the relationship.
Try not to criticize or nag. Make an effort to like (or accept) his music and his friends. Intervene only if you know his choices are wrong or harmful.
Encourage his efforts. Be loving, but firm, when the need arises. Make his home a place he likes to be, a refuge from his sometimes stormy world, a place he wants to bring his friends.
Prayer . . .
Father, help my child learn to make wise decisions. Help him to run from anything or anyone that would lead him down the wrong path. Help me to know when to stand back and when to take a stand. Teach me to make our home a refuge for him. In Jesus' name . . .
These thoughts were drawn from …
Godly Parenting: Parenting Skills at Each Stage of Growth by N. Elizabeth Holland, M.D. This study addresses parenting skills from the time of conception until the child has reached adulthood. It suggests methods for raising healthy, godly children in an increasingly secular society. Specific emphasis is placed on communication and teaching skills, discipline, protection and sexual issues at each age. Note: This curriculum was written especially for small groups, and we encourage people to use it that way. However, it can also be used effectively as a personal study for individuals or couples.
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