Listen Up! - Girlfriends in God - May 22, 2018

May 22, 2018
Listen Up!
Mary Southerland

Today’s Truth

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19, NIV).

Friend to Friend

It had been a very long and extremely hard day. My husband’s grandmother had died, and we had just returned from her funeral. Trying to establish a sense of normality for our two young children, I unpacked suitcases, started the laundry, and spent some time playing with Jered and Danna. After a dinner during which Dan and I tried to lighten the atmosphere with silly bantering, we got the kids ready for bed.

Dan and Danna headed to her room for one last game of “Pretty, Pretty Princess” before bed. (And let me just say that you have not lived until you have seen Dan Southerland in a tiara and pink plastic earrings!) Jered and I settled in his bedroom to read books, play with his Hot Wheels, and just talk. We prayed together and Jered climbed into bed. I gave him a kiss and a hug and tucked him into a blanket, a nightly ritual of creating a “Jered-ito.”

As I turned on his nightlight and started out of the room, Jered’s question stopped me in my tracks. “Mama, do wrinkles make you die?” he asked. Ordinarily, I would have dismissed his question as a childish ploy to delay bedtime, but in a rare moment of wisdom as a mom, I sat on the edge of our son’s bed, took his hand and asked, “Son, what do you mean?”

Jered smiled and replied, “Well, Grandmother died and she had sooooooo many wrinkles.” Dan’s grandmother battled pernicious anemia for many years. The illness itself and the medications she had to take for that condition had left her skin damaged and very wrinkled. “Yes, honey, Grandmother was sick and had a lot of wrinkles. I still don’t understand your question.” After a moment of silence, Jered said, “Well, at dinner tonight you and daddy were joking about who had the most wrinkles, and I just need to know if wrinkles make you die.”

Wow! Over the years, I have thanked God so many times for the Holy Spirit who prompted me to stop and really listen to our son. We talked for a long time about the fact that wrinkles don’t make you die, but we also talked about the fact that Grandmother Lois was in Heaven and did not have any more wrinkles. And that she was well and no longer in pain. It was one of the most meaningful conversations Jered and I ever had about life and death and the fact that when we know Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we will go to heaven where Grandmother Lois will be waiting for us.

I have had to learn how to listen – really listen. For years, I used the time someone was speaking to formulate a clever response. Oh, I looked into their eyes, but I didn’t really see them. I heard their words, but I did not really listen. I failed to hear what was behind the words – the hurt and pain or the confusion and questioning heart.

I now work hard to realize that every person God sends my way is really seeking His listening heart at work in and through me.

I try to look for the pain hidden in each word.

I pray for wisdom to respond in a way that will promote restoration and encourage healing.

Listeningby definition means “attention, with the intention to understand.” James says we should be “quick to listen and slow to speak” (James 1:19). Talking is sharing, but listening is caring.

Take a tip from creation. Ears aren’t made to shut, but the mouth is. Put away your sermon, save your advice, and just listen. Sometimes the best gift we can give is a listening ear.

A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a date - spending some special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was of her. After he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, “Longer, Daddy, longer.” He didn’t eat much food that day, but a little girl’s hungry heart was fed because her father was willing to listen.

Are there any hungry hearts in your life that simply need someone to listen?

I am convinced Jesus was an amazing listener. Children loved Him and longed to spend time with Him. Hurting people were drawn to Him. People from every walk of life sought Him out. He always made time to listen to those in need. We need to do the same.

Let’s Pray

Father, I am sorry for the times when I have failed to really listen to the people in my life who need my love and undivided attention. Help me to become a better listener. Teach me to encourage others by the way I listen to them.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

Now It’s Your Turn

How would you rate yourself in the listening department? Do any of the following characteristics apply to you? If so, what steps do you need to take to become a better listener?

_____ Too busy

_____ Preoccupied

_____ Failure to focus

_____ A judgmental attitude

_____ Don’t care enough

More from the Girlfriends

Friendship can often be complicated and always requires hard work on our part. We can learn to be a better friend and have more genuine friendships when we apply God’s relationship principles in our lives. Mary’s CD, I Need a Friend, will help you discover those principles and teach you how to apply them. Check it out.

Be sure to check out the FREE MP3s on Mary’s website and connect with Mary through email or on Facebook.

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