The Pressure to Be a “Good Christian” and Why You Can Let It Go
By Sarah Frazer
Bible Reading:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” - Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV)
Never enough. It was something my heart repeated to itself on a regular basis. For so many years, I never felt good enough. I felt that if I did more, performed better, added to my to-do list, God would be pleased with me. During those years, I tried so hard to be a “good Christian.” I went to church, prayed, served, and said yes to every request.
What does it mean to be a “good Christian”? I never bothered to ask that question until one day my life began to spiral into depression, uncertainty, and my faith was tested. One day, I realized that suffering and heartache would come whether I was doing life right or not. Whether I was a good Christian or not, pain still happened.
What I needed during those months and, yes, years, of heartache, was not a routine but a relationship. Not until I was forced to reexamine my life did I see where I had misstepped. Somewhere along the way, following Jesus started to feel like something I need to manage instead of a relationship to cultivate. Without realizing it, I started measuring my faith by what I was doing instead of who I was becoming.
Because of life’s circumstances, I didn’t have time to spend hours with God in the morning, or really anytime during my day. I would look at the perfect pictures of women online and how they didn’t seem to struggle. My faith seemed so small, and it was hard to believe God was happy with me. Because so much of my life depended on my service to God, having to step away or say no made me think, “Is God disappointed in me?”
We may never say it out loud, but many of us carry a quiet belief: If I were a better Christian, I would be doing more. In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus doesn’t add to our pressure—He relieves it: “Come to me… I will give you rest… My yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
As we look towards Jesus, we don’t see someone who wants the perfect person; we don’t come to Jesus having it all put together. The burdens we feel to be a good Christian are not from Him. Jesus says those who come to Him, who are welcome, are those who are weary, tired, and feel like they are crushed. The voice of Jesus calling us to come to Him is not a voice of pressure, but one offering peace.
Our culture - even within the religious community - is one obsessed with productivity. Multitasking is a superpower. We love it if we can accomplish more than one thing at a time. This mindset has invaded the church. We have begun to misunderstand the spiritual disciplines as a way to perform, to gain God’s favor, and to win heaven.
What started as a desire to grow can slowly turn into a need to prove. This is where we find ourselves weary. This is when we come to Jesus. Coming to Jesus is relational, not transactional. We come to Him, not to perform, but to be present with Him. As we walk with Jesus, we take His yoke, but the thing is - we share the weight. Growth is about connection. We learn from Him, and eventually we rest in Him.
In John 15:5, Jesus said that we can only bear fruit if we abide in Him. Being a “good Christian” isn’t about being perfect in our actions or our feelings. We do not need to always feel close to God, nor do we need to spend hours studying His Word, praying, or serving him. Serving God comes from an overflow of His power, not in our own strength.
Jesus invites us to be “good Christians” as we return again and again to Him. We trust Jesus with our weaknesses and stay connected to Him, even if it can seem imperfect. He is waiting. He is willing. Every day His mercies are new, and we are invited into a relationship with him. A relationship is not a to-do list. It isn’t something we can measure either. A “good Christian” isn’t someone who gets everything right—it’s someone who keeps coming back to Jesus.
Intersecting Faith & Life:
It’s easy to carry the pressure of performance into our faith without even realizing it. In a world that values productivity and visible results, we can begin to measure our relationship with God the same way—by what we do instead of simply being with Him. But spiritual growth isn’t always loud or measurable. Often, it happens quietly—in small moments of returning, trusting, and staying connected, even when it feels imperfect. What would it look like today, instead of trying to do more for God, you simply came to Him? How can you take one step closer to God?
Further Reading:
Psalm 103:13-14
Luke 18:13-14
John 15:5
Galatians 1:10
Romans 8:1
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