Healing the Wounds of Betrayal - The Crosswalk Devotional - November 14

Healing the Wounds of Betrayal
By Aaron D’Anthony Brown

Bible Reading:
“Now it is not an enemy who insults me—otherwise I could bear it; it is not a foe who rises up against me—otherwise I could hide from him. But it is you, a man who is my peer, my companion and good friend! We used to have close fellowship; we walked with the crowd into the house of God.” (Psalm 55:12-14, CSB)

We all have that experience of watching a show or a movie where the hero gets betrayed by someone he never expected. Like the protagonist, we feel a sense of anger, hurt, and fear for what comes next. The greater the stakes, the more we emotionally respond as viewers. And in those instances when we know what’s about to happen, but the hero doesn’t, there’s dramatic irony on top of all of that. Surely, God must feel the same way for us in the midst of our own betrayals (Psalm 34:18).

In fiction, betrayals are hardly ever expected. In real life, even less so. There’s something quite profound when we experience such a hardship firsthand. They catch us off guard and leave us with pains that feel indelible. Many of us know the sting of a friend turning their back, a cheating spouse, or a coworker who did something devious to get ahead.

If God is the author of our lives, then nothing catches him by surprise. Still, these things happen. God allows them to, which can be painful in and of itself.

Certainly, we’ve asked God why. Certainly, we’ve wished to turn back time. If only we could prevent ourselves from getting hurt by doing something different. But that’s not possible. What happened, happened. Now, we have to pick up the broken pieces and recover.

So, how do we heal those wounds left behind by betrayal?

Intersecting Faith & Life:

Here are a few (but not all) of the ways we can heal the wounds left by betrayal:

Forgive

Healing starts with forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean the relationship will restart, nor does it mean you move on without boundaries. Forgiveness simply means you won’t live your life dwelling on someone’s wrongful deeds.

Remember, God forgives those who forgive (Matthew 6:14-15). So, forgive.

We might tell ourselves we’ve forgiven, but how much do we dwell on the hurt? Are you constantly reminding yourself of what happened or talking about it with others? If so, you might need to reexamine whether or not you have truly forgiven.

Trust God

Psalm 55 is not only well written but quite informative in that David presents readers with a problem and a ready solution. He casts his “burden on the Lord,” praying for justice and that evil would reap a rightful end (Psalm 55:22). This is a reminder to us to seek God for strength when the unimaginable becomes a painful reality. We can pray that He would enact justice. We should also pray that He would take care of us, too, helping us grow from the experience, learn, and hopefully, never fall into such hardship again.

Keep Moving Forward

There are so many questions we ask after a betrayal. Most of them are unhelpful. We shouldn't wonder if God will bring them back, or if they are maturing, or if they will ever apologize. The truth is that you don’t know. And you won’t know until you know, if ever.

Instead, keep moving forward. Trust God to work in their life as He works in your own.

Give the situation to Him and continue to live. Betrayal may mean the end of a relationship, but you still have so much more to live for and look forward to.

Remember, healing is not a one-and-done affair. Sometimes we have to try various strategies time and time again. That’s to be expected. What you shouldn’t do is give up. Yes, what happened in the past hurt, and it may still hurt now, but the past does not predict the future.

Further Reading:
Job 4
Job 42:7-9
Psalm 13
Psalm 55
Psalm 56

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Aaron D'Anthony Brown is a freelance writer, hip-hop dance teacher, and visual artist, living in Virginia. He currently contributes to Salem Web Network’s Crosswalk platform and supports various clients through the freelancing website Upwork. He's an outside-the-box thinker with a penchant for challenging the status quo. 

Get in touch with him at aarondanthony.com and check out his debut short story anthology Honey Dreams on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

Check out fantastic resources on Faith, Family, and Fun at Crosswalk.com! 

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