You Can Do Better
Do not let the sun go down on your anger. EPHESIANS 4:26
Every so often—through an aspect of His grace that feels much more like a punch in the stomach—God will crash His way into a pity party and spoil all the fun we get from sulking. That's exactly what happened on the night I was telling you about yesterday.
As I lay in bed feeling sorry for myself and angry at Barbara, God began the process of convicting me of my selfishness. He reminded me that the very next day, I would be speaking to a large conference crowd, telling them what they should do in situations just like this one.
Oh, yeah . . . I forgot.
And with that little revelation of reality and honesty, all the air went out of my argument. I didn't turn over to face Barbara right away, but I did promise myself I was going to be the first to set things straight in the morning. I was going to apologize. She was right. It was my fault. All my fault.
Things were still a little tense when we sat down together at breakfast the next morning, but I looked Barbara in the eye and admitted how selfish and preoccupied I had been, how I should have responded to her first distress signal. "It was very insensitive of me. I blew it. I'm sorry."
"Well," she said, "I'm sorry, too. It was pretty childish of me to hit you with that pillow. But finding you sitting there watching TV when I needed you, it just . . . that was the last straw."
We talked a while longer. Then I headed out to catch my plane. But by the time I left, we were both feeling a lot better. Even though we didn't feel like it, we forgave each other anyway—by an act of the will.
Reconciliation. It's better than American Express. Don't leave home without it.
Is there any unresolved anger standing between you right now? Wouldn't right now be a good time to reconcile those issues?
Ask God to use the sun as a daily reminder to resolve your issues. Never let it win the race to reconciliation.