"What Kind of Words?"
I was so mad, I could spit.
A coworker, who I thought had my back, publically embarrassed me. So when I got back to my office, I quickly pounded out a harsh email. Point by point I refuted all of the things he said about me.
Bad idea. Really Bad idea.
As soon as I hit "send", conviction worked its way into my heart. The rest of the day was a waste. The Holy Spirit produced sorrow in my heart that exists even today.
The next day, I sheephishly ducked me head into the office of the guy I had verbally ripped the day before. I begged his forgiveness. We spent two hours talking that day and our friendship was healed.
But those words, those cutting, divisive words, had a devastating effect. I made a vow then that I keep to this day. I never, ever express my dissatisfaction with someone in an email. Why? Because an email is too easy, words are cheap when you're safely hidden behind a computer screen. When you don't have to look at the face of the person.
Proverbs says that a man of knowledge uses words "with restraint." He is "even-tempered."
Are you careful with the words you use? Are you do let them fly like verbal knockout punches?
Its too easy today to fire away a text, to add an angry comment, to let it all out on a blog post, facebook status, or on twitter. But words matter.
Are you wise? Use restraint with your words and you'll avoid a lot of verbal sparring matches.
Daniel Darling is an author, pastor, and public speaker. His latest book is Crash Course, Forming a Faith Foundation for Life. Visit him on Facebook by clicking here, follow on him on Twitter at twitter.com/dandarling, or check out his website: danieldarling.com.