Should I Attend My Gay Friend's Wedding?

Regis Nicoll
Regis Nicoll

Now that homosexual ersatzimony has become the law of the land, people who were opposed to the social contrivance in principle, will have to decide whether they will continue to oppose it in practice.

There are Christians of my acquaintance who are against the legalization of same-sex "marriage" and concerned about religious liberty, but cannot see how their attendance at a gay friend's wedding would undermine those values and their Christian witness. Quite the opposite, they believe that declining the invitation would be hurtful to their friend, damaging to the friendship, and contrary to the ethic of Christian love.

Preparing for the day

Although homosexuality affects only about two percent of the population, most people know someone, or know someone who knows someone, who is gay or lesbian. I know several, as probably do most of you. As more decide to take advantage of the social and financial benefits of marriage, the chance that we will be invited to a ceremony, whether by a coworker, friend, cousin, son, or daughter, becomes increasingly likely.  Before the invitation hits our mail box, it is essential for Christians to think through our response by asking ourselves,

  • What do I really believe about same-sex "marriage" and its validity?
  • What would my attendance signify?
  • What effect(s) would my attendance have?
  • How can I best support a gay friend or family member who decides to "marry"?
  • What would Jesus do?

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Originally published January 08, 2016.

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