One of the teasers and puzzles that sustains interest in a marriage over many decades is the fact that you never fully comprehend your partner. Men and women are tantalizingly wired differently from each other. Their perceptions about money, romance, communication, time, and appropriate social behaviors can be significantly different.
God built us with these differences to enrich our lives. Satan would like to use them as wedges to drive us apart. Spouses who assume that their partner thinks just like them will grow frustrated and irritated.
The apostle Peter had a mother-in-law, so he must have had a wife too. She undoubtedly taught Peter a lot about how the female half of the human race perceived things. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives” (1 Peter 3:7). In this passage, the Greek words translated “be considerate” literally mean to live with your wife “according to knowledge.” In other words, study her. Pay attention to her words, face, needs, nonverbal communication. Attune yourself to her—don’t assume that she looks at the world as you do.
Wives, you can help your husbands in their study of you. Begin sentences occasionally with the words, “I want . . .” They speak a different dialect of English from you—do not assume that they can read your mind. Marriage is a dance—pay attention to your partner.
Gay & God: Loving Everyone God Made and Everything God Wrote
Jesus wanted his people to be known for their love. But sadly, love is often the last thing homosexuals find in the church.
This brand-new resource from Time of Grace called Gay & Godshows youthe deep meaning and true significance of Jesus’ words, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”It also teaches you what the Bible actually says on the topic of homosexuality—and empowers you to show practically the love of Christ in a culture where being gay is the new normal.