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She Is Not Silent...Continued from page 3

By Michael Kelly

Copyright Christianity Today International

Twenty-two days after the attack, she was able to fly to our hometown of Cincinnati to recuperate amid a large extended family. In July more than 50 relatives celebrated her birthday with renewed appreciation for each of the candles on the cake.

Bridget stands almost 5-foot-10, and before the attack she weighed about 150. In August, her weight had dropped to 122, and she became thirsty all the time. Her blood sugar shot up. On top of everything else, she was diagnosed with Type I (juvenile) diabetes.

Two doctors said it was brought on by the stress of the attack. Now she pricks her finger several times daily and injects herself with insulin.

Her colostomy was removed, and she began healing physically. She has seen a psychologist weekly to deal with her emotional wounds and her post-traumatic stress.

On August 30, only ten weeks after her attack, her assailant pleaded guilty and stood in District Court in Bell County. DNA tests confirmed that he was my daughter's attacker.

He was sentenced to life and 40 years—and won't be eligible for parole until 2052.

Holy ground

Bridget has received regular counseling, and now so have her parents. She inspires us, her siblings, and others. People say she is so brave, so spiritual. She laughs and says she is "a normal gal, not holier than thou," and yearns for that sometimes elusive "normalcy."

So do we. We're all getting there, we think. But what is normal?

My daughter was determined to return to teaching. Her substitute had the class send "Ms. Kelly" a letter, with questions suggested by the children: "When will we see you? What do you look like? How was your summer?"

As Bridget read the last question, she managed a smile. "I've had better."

Seven weeks into the term, she returned to her school. In the hallways, fellow teachers embraced her.

Her return to teaching was a big part of regaining control of her life and a semblance of normalcy. She says she's not the same as before, and doesn't really want to be.

"What good would all of this fighting have been?" she said, adding that she hopes she is stronger, more compassionate, and more useful to society.

"I want to be a voice for rape survivors," she has told others. "I want to encourage discussion and destroy the secrecy and silence that shrouds this crime."

Recently, she and a friend made an unannounced visit to the field where she was attacked—her first since that awful June night.

They drove past Frank James's house and parked. The field looked different. Construction equipment had graded the previously rough terrain, preparing it for a new subdivision.

My daughter's blood is out there, unseen. Is this accursed ground, where a violent atrocity occurred? Or hallowed ground, where God lifted her up?

Soon families will live there, and children will play and grow.

Bridget returned to this site to conquer any lingering fear, to see for herself that there was nothing there to be afraid of.

She stood and wept quietly.

On a website her brother set up, Bridget wrote that faith, family, and friends had carried her through the trauma. "I know I will always carry with me physical scars that will serve as reminders of what happened to me that night," she said. "With time, I hope to see them as symbols of survival."

My daughter survived a terrifying abduction and rape. She could have died alone in the dark but said that she never felt abandoned by God—that he was there all along, holding her hand.

On the first day of summer, the longest for daylight but the darkest for our family, bullets pierced Bridget's body. But surely not her spirit.

Adapted from The Dallas Morning News (Nov. 24, 2002), © 2002 Michael Kelly. Used by permission.Getting Help

Rape victims can find support from several national and local organizations:

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), the nation's largest anti-sexual assault organization, operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline and carries out programs to prevent sexual assault, help victims, and ensure that rapists are brought to justice. Call 1-800-656-4673, or visit www.rainn.org.

New Life Ministries, the respected Christian counseling service, offers help for a variety of spiritual and emotional crises. Affiliate offices are located across the nation. Call 1-800-NEW-LIFE, or visit www.newlife.com, for counseling resources in your area.

Local crisis centers. In most communities there are outreach ministries, health-care facilities, and domestic-violence shelters that do counseling for rape cases. See "Crisis Intervention" in the Yellow Pages for numbers of individual organizations in your community.

Copyright © 2003 by the author or Christianity Today International/Today's Christian magazine.
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